The fling plan is a 5-step approach to successfully mastering finding flings online. Both the concept and the right websites for it. The advice is straightforward – we’re even told simplistic at times – yet we keep meeting people that fail to ‘get some’.
FLING 101 – FLING BASICS
This section is meant for those in need of step by step instructions for finding flings online. If you’re not one of those, just skip ahead. Before you read on, there are a few things we need to clarify. In general, having a fling requires a little more work than simply ‘online dating’.
You’ll notice from our stats section that the ratio of guys to girls is higher than ‘regular’ online dating sites, even for fling sites that made the top of our list. This is due to various mental blocks that women impose on themselves (i.e.: fear of being labeled, judged, etc…). While this may seem a disadvantage, it’s not. The flip side is that the women that you do find on fling sites are very clear with regards to what they’re looking for.
The above does not mean that any woman you meet through these sites will have a fling with you, and in no way means that the intent with which they’re on the site with is a replacement for having an awesome, fun night with a great person.
You must remember: her agreeing to meet you never ever ever means you’re guaranteed to have a fling with her. A meeting is a good first step; but you need to saddle up and be the fantasy guy she wants you to be.
And that’s exactly what having a fling is – purely a fantasy. What you’re bringing to the table is more than your dong; you provide a fun fantasy experience for women you meet.
REMEMBER: you’re often dealing with a woman who wants some excitement or a wild time, but she will ALWAYS want a fun encounter.
To this extent, there are also some realities you need to understand, which are unfortunately unchangeable:
- Looks matter. You will have a harder time finding a fling if you’re below average looking. A woman will never have a fantasy fling with someone that doesn’t meet her physical criteria. This is true in real life. It’s also try online. It sucks, but it’s simply that way. We do the same with chubby girls. If you had the chance to sleep with one last woman before death, she wouldn’t be chubby. Seriously!
- If you can’t make her laugh you’ll get noplace. Part of a fling fantasy means laughing and having a good time. No one wants to talk about the mundane: job, kids or husband before hooking up.
- Deep confidence problems are unattractive. A woman looking for a fling will do so with someone who can lead, without coming off as pretentious. Humility is is attractive. Bank account balances Benzez at the door. Instead, swap for conversation that stirs excitement, surprise and that cute cuddly ‘awwwwwwwww’ feeling (i.e.: yeah, I was part of the MED CORE in Haiti after the eathquake – I wanted to help).
- Honesty trumps lying every time. In general, women can smell lies pretty quick. Things such as posting pictures from when you were skinnier / younger / etc, will automatically disqualify you from being a good prospect.
With the above said, happy reading and flinging!
PICKING A DATING SITE: WHAT TO EXPECT
As finding flings online implies, you need to be signed up for some sort of fling dating site. Picking a good fling site is the most important first step. Throughout your flinging-good-time, you’ll notice that men outnumber women on every dating website you’ll be working with. It’s just a reality. Stop complaining and start working it. Due to this ratio issue, women constantly get messaged by an infinite number of guys, allowing them to weed out the undesirables pretty ruthlessly. And quickly!
It’s important to pick a website where the ratio works somewhat in your favor. Good news here – we’ve done some of the footwork – you can pick any site that comes highly recommended by a friend that’s used one. Those are generally the best ones to go with. Especially, if they can coach you through the whole online dating process. If not, use our recommendations. They’ve worked well for our boys – and in general, are pretty reliable with a good amount of female presence.
You’ll find both free and pay ‘get laid’ sites. The most effective ones are always the pay sites. Free sites have the crappy downside of attracting a lot of scrappy individuals. There are a lot of dead profiles, plain fake profiles (M posing as F), etc… Pay sites keep these time-wasting people at bay by *generally* showing active profiles in search results and making paid membership quasi-required for communication privileges. Yeah, you have to shell out a bit of $. But you get less fake or inaccurate profiles, as a credit card is required. If you can’t deal with paying 20$ for a month, you should probably not be reading the rest of this post.
Expediting your time-to-macking is worth a few bucks. There’s value in not having to deal with mind games people play in the regular online dating ‘relationship’ world (i.e.: I want to fuck you, but I’ll feel like a whore, etc…). You know the type 
Pick one site to start, and pick wisely. The ones you have in our list are low-commitment.
GET NOTICED: CREATE A KILLER FLING DATING PROFILE
No, we’re not posting profile examples. Our recommended sites would feature all the same info if that were the case. What we do want to do is explain a few profile building techniques to the letter.
Rule #1 – Your Picture is 90% of the Decision for a Woman
As in day-to-day situations, you have little influence over get decision to pick you. The decision to have a fling with you will always be in her hands, and hers alone. You do have the power to put your best foot forward when she ‘checks’ you out online. Of paramount importance is your profile picture, and any other pics you decide to post online. Her decision to reply or not (to your first advances) is completely dependent on how good you look in your profile pic, followed by how interesting your other pics are.
The profile picture you choose should not be just of your face . Out of the 50 ladies interviewed, 44 told us that they eliminate guys that put up face pics only. Also – they don’t consider a profile that has no picture. Makes sense to us! Screening guys is important to women. They won’t sleep with a guy they have never seen. If you don’t show an body indication, you won’t get very far.
Maximize the odds of passing this initial screening. Post quality pictures of yourself, clearly showing BOTH your body and face. SMILE SMILE SMILE in your pictures. Picture quality is SUPER important. Get good high resolution pictures instead of bad cell phone pics.
QUICK NOTE: You don’t need to be a built like an ox to find flings online. Make sure that you pick the right site for you, with a set of women that are well attainable.
Most websites let you post more than one picture of yourself. Focus on pictures of yourself in endearing situations. Action shots always work well. We regularly use action shots in our dating our profiles. Playing sports or doing fun & daring activities (like: skydiving) definitely help in showing yourself as a spontaneous, daring and fun person. This gets you to the top of the list of desirable men in consideration for a fling. REMEBER: A self-respecting woman will NEVER HAVE A FLING with someone she doesn’t find good looking. Keep your body fit – your mind fitter.
Rule #2 – Your Profile – IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU
One regular mistake people make in their profiles is offering up too much info in it. From the women we spoke to, 85% picked these items as the top things they look for in a man when assessing “fling potential”:
- Looks: Where the face, arms and upper-body build mattered most.
- Confidence: Playful & fun – confident in conversation. Avoided standard questions regarding work and related boring subjects.
- Humor: You made her laugh all night.
- Mystery: She could tell you were honest yet also holding back something she REALLY wants to know.
Your profile is NOT ABOUT YOU OR WHO YOU ARE. It’s about WHO SHE WANTS YOU TO BE. You need to create a profile with info that makes her wonder about you … and pegs you as a fun person who she would enjoy meeting.
FLIRTING BOOTCAMP – THE BASICS
You will have to work the numbers to get good flinging results. Yes, a pain in the ass – it certainly is – at times. The advantage of casting your net on online fling sites is that you’re not catching fish that never existed. While 50 intro messages on plentyoffish yield no success, YOU WILL GET MORE REPLIES from pay fling sites, because your audience is much more focused.
There are guidelines to follow when contacting women on any of these websites. The optimal amount of (grammatically correct) sentences when contacting a new prospect is 4 to 5. Messages should be short, funny and FOCUSED on one of her pics.
Anyone can tell fake / generic messages from genuine ones. Women get so many email messages on dating sites that you need to have yours stand out. Write specific, focused AND meaningful. You will reap rewards faster.
In general, avoid long-winded introductions. When you get one – do you bother reading it? Our point exactly. Less is more. Writing anything above 5 sentences basically guarantees no reply. That’s life, friend. Multiple mails to the same girl is a big NO NO NO. Didn’t get a reply to your initial contact? Move on.
Once she DOES reply back, you will need to move her into a conversational phase. You need to get her on some type of real-time communication. This is SUPER SUPER IMPORTANT. Email conversations have a way of getting boring quickly. As soon as she feels bored, you’ve lost her. The quicker you get her on some IM chat, the better your chances are.
Your conversations should be light and fun – not heavy and deep. Learn to integrate some basic humor when you talk. Making fun of her is acceptable; being a douchebag definitely isn’t.
Most women need roughly 3 to 4 hours of chatting prior to agreeing to a meeting.
There are also great new tools that you can use to flirt. Have a few things ready when talking to a girl. Pictures you can send her, which were not posted on the dating site work well. Keep a few funny / cute YouTube links at arm’s length. The ones that get the best responses are the ones that show puppies / kittens doing cute stuff. Girls like small cute & cuddly animals.
Keep it light and fun. After a little while setup the initial date.
MEET & CHARM HER
When proposing a place for the first date, make sure it’s NOT A RESTAURANT and that it’s not in the suburbs. Women will shy away from dinner. It’s a multi-hour long commitment. Too much for a first time. Your best bet is to meet her at a casual place where you can talk and where the time commitment is low for both of you.
Lounges work great. We ALWAYS set up the time for the date to be around 7:30 PM. At that time, the lounge is pretty empty, and the music isn’t too loud. The couches are fucking comfortable. This gives you a good level of intimacy – and you can use your best weapon (your awesomely sly words). You get her to relax on a couch instead of a stiff chair. Additionally – make sure that the place has food to nibble on, in case she gets hungry. Fussy little things, these ladies.
Don’t get drunk unless she leads. If she does drink, do feel obliged. Don’t offer hard liquor unless she asks for it or it’s ‘on the house’. Do ask her if she wants a little something to eat. Do ask how her day went. do ask what was good / bad about it. And if it had been an ideal day, what it would have been like.
You need to have INTERESTING CONVERSATIONS when talking to her. Light & funny stories are always good. Avoid the boring stuff. ALWAYS transition out of work talk into LIFE TALK. And we can’t stress this last point enough: MAKE HER LAUGH.
THE FINAL FLING PHASE
At this point, she should be good to go. REMEMBER: You’re always better off taking a cab with her rather than driving. This is an opportunity to make out with her in the back seat and get her ready for the main event.
Meeting women through fling sites give you one of two possible outcomes. She’ll either leave, or you’ll sleep with her. If you’re into hour #2 at the lounge, it’s a god sign that she wants you.
When ready to leave, always ask about where you should go together. Single women like to go to their place – more comfortable & safe , etc…; it’s familiar ground. If you’re making out with her in the cab (HINT: you should be), you can move to the bedroom as soon as you enter her place. If not, pour a drink for both of you and have a ½ hour kissing session.
The last piece of advice we have for you is that you should make sure you get her number. Goes without saying that if you both had fun, she will want a repeat.
