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===FROM THE BFS.COM TEAM ON THE ALT.COM REVIEW===
Alright – we have one of our guys (Justin) who’s into more extreme versions of sex than most the BFS review team. Justin’s into fetishes, having been introduced to it by some ex-girlfriend in college. He has a few fetishes so we asked him to go ahead and review a few fetish sites for us. This is his review of ALT.COM, which he’s been using for quite some time now. We haven’t included it in our general ranking – because we focus on fling sites – it’s still the best review we’ve published.

Amy, if you’re out there and reading this – thanks for sticking your high-heel in his ass while biting down on his nipple!

We are forever grateful to you for providing us with a foot soldier for fetish site reviews – not to mention the hours of amusement we get from busting his balls! (not fetish-busting – regular guy-bugs-another-guy ball-busting)

And before you ask, SORRY JUSTIN, you can’t erase the above paragraph! Password protected posts ROCK!

- The BFS ‘Justin Rocks’ Team

===NOW ON TO THE ALT.COM REVIEW===

Hi all – this is Justin. This is going to be a solo review – because the other guys are too scared to try new shit.

This isn’t the first time I’ve tried ALT.COM. I’ve been into the fetish scene for awhile – so when the site was initially released, I just *had* to try it. Back then, ALT.COM wasn’t that great – but the experience this time around was a lot better as the site’s been through a number of changes.

Initially, I went looking online because the BDSM scene in Cleveland (Ohio) just wasn’t that great. There’d be the odd party – but you’d have to be ‘in the know’ to make the cut. Then, I moved to NYC – and that was one long fucking sexual ecstasy trip compared to what I had access to in Cleveland. Two years ago, I took a job in Madison (Wisconsin). Back to square one. What I did find is that the internet connects a lot of people with compatible fetishes. That’s when I went back online – I use a few sites these days – but this review is specifically about ALT. The site – not the key …

I signed up for ALT.COM awhile ago. I’ve been using the site pretty regularly since and I’ve had some decent success with it. At this point, I have a steady stream of regular partners, about half of which I’ve met on ALT.COM.

I want to outline a few things for those of you that are curious about BDSM and / or new to the scene. When you signup for a site like ALT.COM there’s a few things you need to know.

===THOSE WITH BDSM EXPERIENCE CAN SKIP THE NEXT THREE PARAGRAPHS AND GO DIRECTLY TO THE REVIEW===

First – just because you have a fetish doesn’t mean that EVERYONE that’s on ALT.COM will be a compatible partner to play it out. BDSM requires a level of understanding and compatibility between two people that goes WAY BEYOND regular ‘vanilla’ dating. In general this is because the person with a submissive fetish ‘gives into’ a dominant personality. So the rules by which play time is governed are of the UTMOST importance.

Second – when you are in ‘play time’ mode, you ALWAYS need to respect the ‘rule of the safeword’. This is a pre-agreed word / signal by playing parties. When any party playing BDSM games invokes the safeword, YOU MUST STOP PLAY TIME DEAD IN IT’S TRACKS. Just because you have a fetish, doesn’t mean you don’t have any limits.

Finally – if you’ve never met fetish-minded people online before, you need to know this. It’s NOT easier to ‘get some’. In fact – it takes longer to find good partners. Why? For the reasons found in #1. Because you’re dealing with complete strangers (and vice-versa), prospective partners have a tendency of meeting in very social & very public gatherings MULTIPLE TIMES. We do this to build trust, and talk about what is and isn’t permissible when we start to play together. It’s like a beautiful dance where one negotiates play time conditions. YOU CAN’T BYPASS THIS – AND YOU SHOULDN’T TRY TO.

There is one thing you’ll quickly notice in this community:

NO TRUST = NO PLAY TIME

Even though both parties want to ‘get their kink on’, being patient is part of the game.

===ALRIGHT NOW ONTO THE ALT.COM WEBSITE REVIEW===

The site specializes in connecting people that ‘dig’ the BDSM lifestyle. You won’t get much with the free membership, except a sneak peek at what *could* be if you upgrade. This isn’t a deception – most ‘specialty’ meeting sites (websites that tailor to very specific niches) consider this standard practice. So be ready to pony-up a few dollars if you’re serious about wanting to explore this side of your sexuality.

A list of fetishes is at the end of this post!

Like every site, the ratio of men to women is skewed at about 3 men to 1 woman. That can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on what you’re looking for fetish-wise.

The site offers your standard set of person-to-person communication features: Instant Messaging, Private Messaging, Audio Chat and Video Chat. These features that ALT.COM introduced a little over a year ago. When first introduced, these would crash often – they generally weren’t loved.

About 6 months ago, I noticed some changes were made to these features. For this review, the guys ‘asked’ me to spend a few weeks finding new partners on ALT.COM. From this last set of tests, they are now petty much rock-solid.

Now – here’s the part of this review that *really* matters.

Given that the above set of features ISN’T ANY DIFFERENT than those found on most modern dating sites … how do you actually ‘get some’ on ALT.COM? Let’s examine this in a little more detail. If someone on a regular dating site like eHarmony.com doesn’t know you – would they agree to a video chat or give you their cell number? Fuck no. It’s no different on ALT.COM (there are exceptions to this, but not many).

I will repeat again what I said earlier …

NO TRUST = NO PLAY TIME

If you think you can just sign up and lick some heels within hours because you forked over a few bucks, don’t bother joining. You’ve a;ready struck out.

Fetish dating is about building trust between people that will end up satisfying YOU and THEMSELVES with play time. It’s not a race – it’s not a contest to who can ‘get some’ quicker – it’s about meeting, understanding and pleasing (sometimes: discarding) people – and most of all yourself – by finding someone that can either dominate you or be dominated.

Back to ALT.COM – how do you DO THAT ONLINE? The best place to start is the chat rooms, and graduate to 1-on-1 conversations. I’ve seen people sign up and just show up in a chatroom and just say shit like ‘looking for someone to get tied down so I can shit on their chest TONIGHT – who’s in?’ followed by ‘you guys all suck I thought this was a real BDSM forum ’. Look – dude / chick / whatever – it’s NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! With those few sentences, that person alienated an entire community of people who were otherwise willing to accept them!

The first few days after you join ALT.COM – don’t talk too much – do *LISTEN* a lot. Listening will give you an indication of who’s been there for awhile, who’s willing to play and who’s a complete douchebag. Listening online is an edge – it’s worth exploring.

Much as in real-life BDSM meet-ups, you need to build a reputation on ALT.COM as trustworthy play partner. It’s actually *easier* to do in person rather than online – because generally, you can tell who’s a fraud and who’s not – a lot of ALT.COM users (including myself) are weary of someone who’s too forward and unwilling to have a few coffees. The ones that are impatient are the ones to avoid.

For those that have been to a few community parties – you know that girl that’s hog-tied in a cage being flogged in front of people? She’s comfortable with that because there’s 20 other folks around who know respect, and will enforce the BDSM code – nothing bad will actually happen beyond the fantasy she’s living out. ALT.COM takes that security away, in a certain way (all websites do!) – so people are extra careful when socializing.

In summary, here are the stats from my last 8 weeks on ALT.COM. It’s worth joining if you’re interested / curious in BDSM. But not if you’re a douche. Do keep in mind that because I’ve been involved in this community for awhile – I’m known pretty well – I probably ‘get some’ more than someone who would just join for the first time. That’s my disclaimer – but I’m also sexy. Hehe.

As mentioned above, here’s the ALT.COM fetish list:

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SexSearch.com Overview

SexSearch.com is one of the premier adult dating websites on the net. We’ve tested it out over a few months and surveyed dozens of patrons who have used it on and off.

As you’ll read later in this post, one of the great things about a site like this is that no one can *really* pretend that they aren’t there for casual encounters. This isn’t Match.com or eHarmony, where people pretend to be civil to each other and keep lying about what they’re *really* there for.

The issue with a site like SexSearch.com is that you have to play ‘the field’ purely as a numbers game. There are women on there and they want to get laid without going through the eHarmony dog-and-pony show. There are also tons (and we mean TONS!) of men on there, who want exatly the same thing. The guy-girl ratio is very skewed and certainly gives a clear advantage to women. However, if you learn to come off as one of the infinitely small number of ‘quality’ men on SexSearch, you will have great success with this site.

The key to winning the odds in this match is to play it VERY direct, but not sleazy. Remember: what open-minded women really find the most attractive is confidence. If you are anything like us, you definitely have a set of insecurities that play out in real life in weird ways. These make you shy, or worse!

BUT HERE’S THE NO-FRILLS ANSWER GENTLEMEN

THIS IS THE ONLINE DATING WORLD – HERE, WE GET TO BE WHOEVER THE FUCK WE WANT TO BE. YOU COULD BE JAMES BOND … or BATMAN … It’s a world completely built around the FANTASY that you present yourself as. No one wants to KNOW that you’re an accountant or an ‘IT Guy’.

Your misconceptions are all in your head. When working a site like SexSearch.com , most men will asume that you can simply walk in an get laid after a nice & classy ‘Hey baby, wanna fuck?’. That couldn’t be further from the truth. What most guys fail to understand is that ‘Adult Dating’ does NOT mean ‘easy sex‘. It simply means that folks on sites like SexSearch are GENERALLY MORE OPEN to a casual encounter than, say, someone you would meet on eHarmony.

Keep your profile *well* written as if you are well educated. SHOW CLASS, and ye shall be rewarded handsomely. Most women that happen to be horny do not want to talk about getting triple-penetrated from all angles. Try having a direct and light conversation first. If you see that SHE volunters going towards kinkier talk, take the lead. SexSearch.com is one of those adult dating sites where the understanding o eventually ‘having sex’ is total subtext. To get to that point, you need to play your cards close to the vest and *NOT* be the horny guy. Naturally, you ARE the horny guy, but you need to PLAY IT OFF LIKE SEX WILL ‘JUST HAPPEN’. Deception is your friend on a “dating” site like SexSearch.com.

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Some basic advice: NEVER post cock pictures. Women do not respond to pornography the same way men do. Men get arounsed instantly, while women (even the most open-minded ones) require having their MIND seduced before giving their BODY to you. Posting a picture of your dick for everyone to see screams ‘I am exactly like 95% of the other guys on this site’.

Case in point: One of our readers joined SexSearch.com and spent 2 weeks on it, without success. He wrote us an angry comment on how the site was a complete scam and our review was way off base. We ofered to take a look at his profile and see if we could identify WHERE he went wrong. We quickly found out the problem. His main profile picture was of him in full-on BDSM gear and his headline read ‘All Leathered Up & Ready To Whip You’.

Now, you tell us – what woman in her right fucking state of mind is going to reply to this guy? If we were women, we’d be scared that he’d ball-gag and chain us to the back of his pickup truck within 5 minutes of our first meeting.

NOW READ CAREFULLY, BECAUSE THIS IS *REALLY* IMPORTANT: YOU DO NOT want to be that guy. That guy is what 95% of the male member base are on SexSearch.com. You want to be part of that remaining 5%. The ones that actually get laid off of adult dating websites, and do it with style.

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We strongly recommend that you get a set of pics of yourself in classy (and / or adventurous) situations. Our recommended positioning of your profile is one of a busy man who just does sites like these for efficiency. Great pictures include you doing daring shit (skydiving pics, anyone?) or very original actiities (you on top of a mountain staring into the sunset, for example). Forget te shity ‘face pic only’. Your picture must convey adventure and mystery.

You’re the guy that DOESN’T HAVE TIME for a full on relationship, but you are always open for making time for meeting fun & interesting people. On sites like SexSearch.com , you are *LITERALLY* competing against a horde of horny, geeky, low-class losers who would fall down on their knees like the french army for a smile from a good looking woman. YOU ARE NOT ONE OF THEM … at least not online.

Keep your interactions very pointed and direct. You want her, thats no secret. That doesn’t mean you just revert back to being a fucking neanderthal. She’s a woman and she wants YOU to LEAD. And leading means she wants you to own her mind. No self-respecting woman looking for a one night stand will go sleep with a guy that can’t lead her without being crass. The same rules apply online. If you want her to sleep with you, you will need to OWN HER MIND first, and her BODY second.

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REMEMBER: THE MOST SEXUAL ORGAN OF THE HUMAN BODY IS THE BRAIN. Don’t focus on her body, focus on her brain. Make her UNDERSTAND AND FANTASIZE about a night of bliss through your charracter. When you own her mind, you’ll get the girl anytime.

SexSearch.com Statistics

TO VISIT PASSIONSEARCH.COM – CLICK HERE

When we looked at PassionSearch.com (by force from a girl friend of another friend’s of ours a few months back), we didn’t have high expectations. We bought a membership for PassionSearch.com and throughout it would be a boring ‘regular’ online dating site. That it’s be the good old type where women posted “I’m a nice & classy woman and I want a real man guy that can make me laugh yet can challenge me altogether” standard bullshit.

We seem to have been wrong on this one – and we’re willing to admit that (sorry, Amy! – much apologies!). We found out that our bias almost prevented us from discovering this one. And I think in the future we’ll pay more attention to recommendations from … ummmm … not men. Like any other dating site, there’s women looking for something steady in their relationship. Yet – somehow – most we’ve spoken to are still open to something more … casual. Then again, we’re not the ones that are promising a house in the suburbs and a white picket fence.

We toned our approach and profile on PassionSearch.com, compared to other websites we’ve used. It’s a ‘regular’ online dating site – so you need to be a little more ‘class’ and a little less ‘trash’ overall – especially in your profile. We do need to mention that some of the profiles of girls on PassionSearch.com are … interesting … in comparison to your other dating sites such as eHarmony.com. It can be a good thing – it makes it an easy search to find girls that are open to a more casual & open dating relationship. It can also be very bad – those same girls are totally flooded with ‘mails’ and ‘winks from dudes for the same reason.

So – you need to be different in your profile and approach. For that, you should read the guide we’ve created on how to make yourself stand out from the crowd. While meeting women on PassionSearch.com will always be a game of numbers for guys on online dating sites (women hold the power in that specific situation) – you can ‘stack the deck’ and learn to BE ORIGINAL. Don’t be one of those dudes that places one shitty face picture expects success instantly. It’s not the way it works. You need to be a man and stand out from those idiots.

Here are the final stats for PassionSearch.com! We’ll post an update in March to see how this site has progressed…

PassionSearch.com Statistics

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Guys, here’s our TOP PERFORMING WEBSITE. When we last reviewed Fling.com, it was pretty new. Since then, it’s gotten good scale and we’ve been very satisfied with the results. We’ve INCREASED our meeting and closing ratio substantially, basically propellng this site to to be our top recommended fling website.

Here are the NEW STATS FOR FLING.COM – you’ll see that they are pretty freakin’ aweosme:

Fling.com UPDATED Statistics

===PREVIOUS REVIEW from JANUARY 2, 2010==

Fling.com is a new site for us, and our overall experience with it was pretty satisfying. Good chick-to-guy ratio and good communication functionality helped us meet and mack a few hotties from Fling. While chatting with women on this site, we used a pretty strong approach – not to say we were vulgar – but just asertive enough for all of this to … work . Overall, we found that the women on Fling were pretty responsive and open to a few fun (sometimes wierd) ideas. The price was worth the expense.

Below are the numbers we gathered during our 2 month Fling.com sex-periment.:

Fling.com Statistics (from JAN 2, 2010)

Tag: Fling.com Review

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Still doing really well in our overall experiment, Passion.com continues to provide fantastic girls, without dissapointing. We met some more ladies on this site, and had a good amount of more successes on it. If you’re not comfortable playing with webcams, this is a good site, with a wide range of girls of all ages and walks of life. Definitely a recommended place to try your own sex-periment

The site increased in the esteem of our reviewers quite a lot; mainly because one of our boys spent a stupid amount of time on it. He had a smile on his face almost every day, which says a lot about Passion.com.

The NEW PASSION.COM STATISTICS as of today are below – you’ll see that they are quite impressive (if we do say so ourselves):

Passion.com UPDATED Statistics

===PREVIOUS REVIEW  from JAN 3, 2010==

Passion.com is a great dating site for quick flings. The site is easy to navigate and the search options are simple to use. The amount of women on Passion.com isn’t as good as Fling.com – but the the quality of the chicks we met was definitely above-par.

We messaged a fair amount of ladies between 1:30 AM and 5:30 AM and got a good number of replies – meaning they are up for a good party. That’s impressive, given the world freakin’ generally sleeps at that time . It also indicates that they have REAL women as customers, which is always refreshing to find out. So we did what we do best – we chatted – we charmed – we promised flowers (NOT). All in all, we recommend this site to anyone willing to put in a little time flirting – it’s not quite as straightforward as Fling.com

Below are the stats we gathered during our 2 month long Passion.com sex-experiment.:

Passion.com Statistics (from JAN 3, 2010)

Tag: Passion.com Review

TO VISIT LAVALIFE.COM – CLICK HERE

We’ve all heard about LavaLife.com.

Well – we actually tried it. Just for shits and giggles.

Between the ‘I don’t sleep with guys on the first date’ and ‘If you’re looking for an easy girl, go see elsewhere’ – we found a good amount of girls that slept with us on the first date.

Here’s the new entrant we’ve spent time reviewing this last 2 months. LavaLife.com is pretty much your regular, plain online dating site. It’s used by A GODDAMN TON of people (and a lot of women looking for relationships) – you’re pretty sure to find someone in your region looking for something. It is mostly a RELATIONSHIP DATING site – which is cool with us. Obviously – this means that your come-ons need to be less toned down then adult dating sites. Like most vanilla dating sites, the majority of women on this site consistently claim wanting a steady relationship – we found that they generally don’t have any issues having some fun while they’re looking for the perfect guy – as long as you’re clear with them about that part.

Again, our boys did well on this fling site – mainly because of the wealth of women that are available in our city. That’s a definite advantage of ‘relationship’ sites. They have a TON of real women who pretend to be ‘hard to get’.

As far as the site goes, LavaLife is one of the better ones – they put a lot of cash back into marketing to women (duh!) and consistently upgrade their functionality every few months. The interface is great – a sign of a site that listens to its userbase – and it’s site easy-as-hell to use.

Here are the stats for LavaLife.com.:

LavaLife.com NEW Statistics

Tag: LavaLife.com Review

TO VISIT AMATEURMATCH.COM – CLICK HERE

Another new entrant into our site reviews. We’ve spent a bit of time reviewing this one last month. AmateurMatch.com was proposed to us by one of our reviewers, who we always thought was a total douchebag. We still think he’s a douche, but at least he contributed. . AmateurMatch.com has an OK amount of girls to guys, a pretty clean interface, safe billing practices.

We’ll let the stats to the talking.  Here they are for AmateurMatch.com.:

AmateurMatch.com NEW Statistics

TO VISIT FRIENDFINDER.COM – CLICK HERE

After having awesome initial success with FriendFinder (not AdultFriendFinder – different site – less adult-oriented but not bad overall), we’re reduced to having less success in this last month. Why? We have NO IDEA. We didn’t drastically change our dating tactics – it might just be a lull in our luck.

The site’s still great to use however it no longer deserves the amazing praise it previously held a few months ago. Put simply – we had roughly the same amount of hook-ups from Passion.com in half the amount of time. That’s enough for us to bump this one down a little.

FriendFinder, we still love you – just not as much.

Here are the NEW FRIENDFINDER.COM STATS – not too much change, except for effort level put in by our sex-periment crew. Still better than not getting any @ all .:

FriendFinder.com UPDATED Statistics

===PREVIOUS REVIEW from JAN 2, 2010==

FriendFinder.com is by far the best site we could find out there for having a fling. It’s great for a number of reasons. The first is that the ratio of women to men is pretty damn good. You still have to do quite a bit of hunting – with the mandatory girls that never respond (fuck ‘em). The second is that this fling site has great comm (that’s communication, morons) features including cam chitchat. This helps you meet the person you’re talking to (also included – making sure she’s a SHE), and actually reduces your time-to-score. We went from meeting to macking in less than 5 hours. Pretty good experiment results, if you ask us! In general, we found the ladies on the site to be prettier and younger, probably ‘cuz it ranks well with students and younger professionals.

Below are the stats we gathered during our 2.5 month long FriendFinder.com experiment.:

FriendFinder.com Statistics (from JAN 2, 2009)

PlentyofFish.com takes our First Prize in the ‘Absolute Garbage’ category. YES – WE KNOW IT’S ‘FREE’. Try putting in your Credit Card for the premium services. Good luck with that!. Given our fairly successful track record for flings online, we expected that we’d get at least one hottie off this site – instead we got a lot of fatties with more fat friends. So sad. 150 shitty-winks later, this leads us to believe that the site is basically full of real profiles, but none worth actualyl checking out. Don’t waste your time on this stupid site.

AdultDateLink.com is a crap site. Total 100%shit. Not only do they put up a ton of fake profiles, but to make matters worse – they try to charge you to see these fake pics. BLAH! They also DOUBLE BILL YOU (read the FULL license agreement). The agreed rate is apparently an introductory rate. Again – BLAH! If you’re looking for quick fun, avoid this fake site like you avoid a fat girl when sober.